The many roles of a person

I was just wondering about the eternal question 'Who am I'? 'I' am defined by my many roles with respect to society and family. In that way I am a woman,a daughter, a wife, a mother, sister, cousin, a working woman, a neighbour, a boss, a subordinate, and so on. In each of these roles others will view me in a particular way which I am unable to perceive myself which may be very important in knowing myself. My child may view me as strict parent, my parents as a dutiful daughter , my boss as a pushover etc. When I reconcile all these viewpoints, then maybe I will be able to form a self image of myself, as I truly am. Moreover at a certain point in life I have to remove all these external impressions - the various roles in which society casts me and therefore I cast myself, to truly understand myself and my motivations. Another dilemma is whether I should act on my motivations? I may be motivated to fall in love with a handsome stranger but my role as a wife and mother holds me back and prevents me from doing so. So these roles may be important in certain ways but to what limit? In my role as a working woman I am often looked down upon in the office, as it is perceived I am not serious enough about my job- taking too many leaves etc, whereas the same problem is not faced by my colleagues. At home too, I am unable to join the gossip and kitty parties of my neighbours who are housewives and I am excluded from this group due to my exalted status as a 'working woman'. I feel to truly live one must explore all the senses to the fullest and try one's hand at different things and occupations, not be boxed in by what society says one must 'be' and 'do'. After all this may be the only life I have and so I need to make the most of it & live to the fullest without hurting anyone so that at the end of the day I can say that I know myself, if only partially.